Very early this morning, I had a conversation with someone that made me cry.
He wanted a copy of my book(BUILDING SELFWORTH) because he was convinced of what the book could do for him.
Now, that’s not what made me cry, I’ll tell you what.
I met this young lad between 2017 and 2018 when he was contemplating suicide(I didn’t know this until today). He lost a close relative before we met and along the line failed an examination he had prepared for, for a very long time.
Not to give excuse, but he failed because he was suffering from depression of losing a loved one.
Imagine what the failure did to him? He was buried in deeper dose of depression.
He said when he met me, I would check on him at least twice every week, send motivational contents to him at least 3 times every week and whenever he read my posts online he saw another reason to hang in there.
He said and I quote “I had never met a happier person until I met you Laurry”.
Now, here is the twist, as at the time we met, I WAS BATTLING DEPRESSION TOO. He didn’t believe it, so I don’t expect you to believe it too, but I’ll tell you anyway.
Between 2017 and 2018, I sat down more than once to ask myself ” Laurry you love yourself too much to be going through this pain” and since I couldn’t help myself out of it at that time, I would pray and say to myself “na to just die na, just end this stupid pain”.
But each time I thought about this SELFLOVE thing, I had to also adopt the sacrificial nature.
Like, I thought about 5 people I would fail if I killed myself. I thought about my precious mother Mrs Joan N Olika, my big brother Barr. D.G.Olika, my baby sister Benita Confidence Chinedu Olika, my cousin Zinella Nwabudike and I thought about YOU.
Imagine if I had killed myself, this dear friend who called today would have had no reason not to do same, what about the pain others would feel?
What about the disappointments?
Jesus! What about YOU?
Would you have forgiven me?
The unanswered questions that would have been in your heart.
See…Self-love, if not understood properly could cause problems to the person practicing it the wrong way.
SELF LOVE IS NOT JUST ABOUT LOVING YOURSELF MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE, IT IS LOVING YOURSELF REGARDLESS OF WHAT PEOPLE SAY OR THINK ABOUT YOU.
Self-love comes with a certain form of responsibility. Self-love will push you to take responsibility for your life. Self-love will make you go out each day seeking ways to better YOURSELF.
I’m glad I stopped being selfish, I’m glad I took advantage of the real practice of SELF-LOVE. I’m glad I am where I am today because the concept of SELF-LOVE and SELF-WORTH taught me to see life differently.
When next you see someone who is contemplating suicide, don’t insult them please, cause I’m sure, the problem isn’t that they fancy death, its just that they want the pain to die, if you can help them see life differently, if you can help them want a part of life, if you can help them kill the pain with a drive to want something bigger. They’ll consider life again.
As for you, you think you love yourself the right way?
Well, try to get a copy of my book;
BUILDING SELFWORTH (Become who you admire)